Tuesday, September 19, 2017


I'm a bad blogger! I always forget to answer any comments I get!
I do read them and think about saying something, even a thank you!
But by the time I get back to my blog a week or so has passed and I wonder should I
write now, is it too late. Then more time passes and I still haven't replied!
So to all of you have left comments, a big thank you!

The House

Since MIL has been in hospital we have been going to her house.
The first time was to pick up stuff she needed, but I couldn't stay inside.  The smell was
revolting, and made me sick.
David spent one Saturday morning moving out bags and bags of trash, she had collected trash together but just left it.  The summers here a really hot and humid so even after a day the  trash starts to smell, so after a few weeks.....YUK!!!!
David also found jars of Japanese pickles that she had been making.  Inside were flies, about 2 inches thick, some other pickles have something swimming in them!  The floor of the kitchen/dinning area is covered in insect casings and the window were black with some kind of insect (I don't look to carefully, so I have no idea what they are).  The carpets were wet and moldy, not sure if it was just water or urine!
I went the one Sunday to help clean up, what used to be the living room was filled from floor to ceiling with empty cardboard boxes, so we threw those out.  Found a massive, palm size cockroach in the kitchen draw.  That sent me screaming and running down the corridor.  David said I was faster than Bolt!  Could be true, when I saw that thing come for me I just took off,  shouting "Mommy. Mommy, Mommy " at the top of my lungs!
MIL is doing okay.  She had her operation last week.  I had to be at the hospital during the operation, then listen to the doctors explanation after.  All in all 4 hours just hanging around!  The doctor said that she will be in hospital until at least the new year plus she can't drive afterwards.  So looks like finding a care home for her.  Living together sis not an option, I am not putting myself or my kids through that again.
Of course I am paying for everything. Even before I've started paying  medical bills I have had to fork out about $300 for taxi (to move her from one hospital to another), plus special diapers, towels etc, If I add in the extra gas it comes close to $400, money that I should be saving!

Friday, September 1, 2017


So my MIL is in hospital!
She fell on the outside steps and broke her leg!  Of course things are not as simple as they look!
Apparently she fell two or three days before she was found! She must of been in agony!  Not able to move, she couldn't reach the phone  and of course didn't eat or drink for that time!  So she arrived in the local hospital dehydrated which has put a strain in her kidneys and heart. The doctor will send her to the larger hospital to operate once she is  stable.  The doctor will have to open her leg and attach a metal plate with screws. Problem is her knee is artificial, the break is above the knee and there is not so much bone between the break and the  knee.  So how to fix the plate at that point is going to be a problem!
Another problem is the state of the house!  It is disgusting!  Looks like she is unable to take care of herself!  There are bugs everywhere and bug casings on the floor! It was so bad that I didn't take my shoes off to go in the house.  In Japan we never wear shoes in the house but the floors were so bad I couldn't face walking around in bare feet!  The carpets are wet and going moldy, the sinks are black from mold. I couldn't stay inside!  We needed to pick up some towels for MIL, I ended up buying new ones! The biggest problem is going to be the cost of all this!  With no other family we will have to pay.  MIL has some insurance but it won't cover everything, plus I think she needs to be in a home! In Japan the government helps if you keep old people at home and take care of them.  But we tried that and even with my husbands help I felt suicidal by the end of one year with her! There is no way I can take care of her without my husband!  It would strain our family too much!  So looks like all the dreams and plans I was making will have to be put aside to pay for MILs care!  What a life!