And how I failed at it!!
I was talking to David about how I used to be able to declutter when we lived at the other house.
David said that it was all an illusion. I would pack up boxes, then put them in the storage room here. It got so bad that after my mother-in-law went into a care home, I turned the whole of this house into one giant storage place.
I wanted to tell David that he was wrong, but I know he wasn't. So what's going on? Why didn't I get rid of all the stuff that we had?
Part of it, maybe a big part, is emotional,
I hold onto things to hold onto memories. To hold onto people that have passed away, onto times that are finished.
That might not seem too bad, but when we finally started to sort out the storage room, I had this idea that most things were from just a few years ago, maybe 10 years ago or so.
That illusion was shattered when I found boxes of clothes that I had from before I came to Japan, and I've been here for 34 years! Clothes from the 1980s! I would never wear them again, I don't think I would ever fit in them again! Why was I keeping them? I felt some attachment to them, seeing them brought back memories, but I have a lot of photos from that time that bring back memories. Those I could get rid of, not easy, but I did it!
Other boxes that I opened had baby clothes. Mikey is now 33 years old, so why do I still have his baby clothes? Again, memories, but again, I have photos. These were harder to get rid of! So I decided to choose two items from each child that I really loved and kept those. I kept all the knitted baby jackets and hats that my Mom made; those are too precious to throw away.
Other boxes had books, school books, toys, so many toys! Those were easier to let go of, again, I chose some that held special memories, the rest went!
Part of keeping things has to do with the feeling that I will never get things again. If I throw out this T-shirt, I don't have anything to replace it with, and I might not be able to get another one! I know that doesn't make sense, but because I'm obese, getting nice clothes is difficult. It's easier now as there are catalogues that cater to plus-size people that aren't too expensive, but I still have this feeling that I won't be able to buy anything else! In my closet now I have a load of clothes that I don't wear, either they are the wrong size or they don't suit me, but I won't throw them out because I might need them.
Also, there is this feeling of mottainai, another good Japanese word. It means what a waste. It has the feeling of regret over wasting something. I think this might be another blog post!!
That's the emotional side of things, and I'm really trying to deal with that!
The other part is the practical side of disposing of stuff. Where does all this trash go?
Recycling has caught on in Japan, but it is so different from the UK. In the UK, there are a lot of charity shops that take your unwanted items and then sell them on to make money for their charity! Japan has recycle shops. The big ones near here are Hard Off, 2nd Street, and Flys. Hard Off takes most things. I sold most of my mother-in-law's clothes; 90% of those clothes were never worn, and still had the original tags on them. I didn't get much money, but it felt good to let them go to a place where somebody else could use the items. But most recycling shops only take name-brand goods to resell. So, what to do with all the stuff that I've kept over the years?
There are some collection places where you can just dump old clothes, but you have to sort out anything that might have plastic on it! I think these are sent to landfills or burned at the local trash incinerator!
We are lucky because we can burn things here. When we were cleaning out before we moved in, we would have a big fire at least 4 times a week. Even now, we are still burning stuff.
Another problem is getting rid of large items. In Japanese, this is called sodai gommi, large trash. You have to get a sticker from the city hall and make an appointment for a truck to pick it up. It does cost, but each city is different! I think here it's about 5,000 yen, about £25.
Electrical appliances are another category. I usually ask the shop that I'm buying from to take my old appliances.
One category that I haven't figured out is plastic. We have piles of plastic buckets, bowls, crates, boxes, etc, that I have no idea what to do with! I think they can go to the local incinerator, but we need some ID to show we live in this city!
So I failed at decluttering. Dumping everything here was good, out of sight, out of mind! Now that we live here, I'm constantly reminded of my failure.
We did empty out the storage room, but when we moved here, our extra things went into the storage room. Moving from a house that had 6 rooms plus a kitchen, living, and dining room to a 3-room kitchen, dining room house meant that there is a lot that just doesn't fit in this house.
I didn't think it was that bad until I took some of the heavy winter blankets up the other day!
This is our storage place now!
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The scary stairs |
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boxes |
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Bit blurry, sorry, but so much stuff |
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more stuff |
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And yet more |
The drawers at the back are empty, so I'm planning on putting off-season clothes in there, which might save some space.
I need to get in there with one of the kids to move things for me. Some of those boxes are very heavy!
I will get this done!!